tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-72334039606121568102024-02-20T17:22:14.390-07:00Daily Dose of Positive PsychologySharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.comBlogger247125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-91158433108104250892018-01-30T12:42:00.000-07:002018-01-30T12:42:08.656-07:00Reach Out to those You Love<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Every once in awhile we experience a shock, or an unexpected sadness that may lead us to pause and step back from our busy lives to ponder what is really important. We all get so caught up in the demands of our current "must do" lists, the stresses of whatever fire must be extinguished right now, or the worried preoccupation with what we must face next. We forget what we truly value and what gives us most meaning and fulfillment in our lives. For most of us, the most authentic and lasting happiness is experienced through our relationships - those feelings of belonging, safety and validation that only flow from loving and being loved. I wish for us all that loss may serve as a gentle reminder to live the values we most cherish and to cherish those we most value. </span>Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-60866953145115515432017-02-06T18:13:00.000-07:002017-02-06T18:14:34.345-07:00Snowed Under<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b>Snowed Under</b>. It's cold and dark in here. I am stuck, frozen in this place, disconnected and so alone. The world seems eerily silent and harsh, so distant that I shiver with a sense of loss. I don't know how to dig myself out. I am lost in the shadows of emotion and the prickly edges of fear. The pangs of past regrets and future anxieties send icy chills deep down to my core. The heaviness of my insecurities will smother me if I let them linger, pile and drift. So, I pause for just a moment. I turn around and face it. What else can I see? I breathe in, I breathe out. I notice the light shining through the dark. It is there in the distance. It beckons and guides me, gently and without urgency. It is an invitation, a ray of hope, and I know it will show me the way. I don't know how to get there yet, but if I keep my eyes focused on the light I will be warmed, I will be safe and my fears will be melted. </span></span><br />
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<br />Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-36632072606152449242016-01-26T18:25:00.001-07:002016-01-26T18:25:31.809-07:00DECIDE TO TRY<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">"The only way out is through"</span></span><br />
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Seriously, it's beautiful,right? This gorgeous winter scene. Yes, looking out from inside a warm and cozy room, it is awfully pretty. And AWFULLY COLD? The only way to survive a Canadian winter with a somewhat intact sense of mental health is to embrace winter and what it can do for you! Yes, how do we get the most of this season that lasts at least two thirds of the year - you know what I mean, Calgary! So, haul out the long underwear, the mitts and scarves and gloves... if you are dressed for it, you can enjoy the squeaky crunch of snow pack under your boots, and the sparkly glitter of frost on the tree branches. Inhale the frosty, clean, clear breath of freshness, renewal and positive energy. Exhale the old and the tired and the "I'm done with that!" Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-51694299177968807032013-02-14T05:30:00.000-07:002013-02-14T07:33:49.101-07:00Just 5 minutes on the treadmill!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Oh man, today's trip to the gymn was a tough one! I was kind of tired this morning, and I'm fighting a cold, so the brain wars sounded a little like this: "Just pour yourself another coffee, snuggle up in a blanket and check Facebook" vs "No, you'll feel so much better if you go and do your workout; it will be energizing". It was actually another voice, kind of a middle-ground mediator that resolved the conflict this morning: "Okay, here's the deal, just go and do 5 minutes on the treadmill. Have a super easy workout, but then you get points for going!" And voila, it worked! It didn't seem too daunting to do 5 minutes instead of the whole weights routine, so I got in the car and went. Wouldn't you know it though, once I was there, and did my 5 minutes, the energy was back, and the weights didn't seem quite so heavy to tackle. So motivational lesson learned is this: When the willpower just isn't doing the trick for you, give yourself a break and lower your expectations. Set yourself a small, easily attainable goal. The key is to just get moving, take a baby step in the right direction. Then, you may surprise yourself that it's easier to let the momentum carry you forward, rather than just stopping. And even if you do stop after just 5 minutes on the treadmill, that's better than nothing, so yes, you do get points for going!Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-27385474697349213812013-02-08T14:16:00.000-07:002013-02-08T14:16:21.776-07:00Resist Temptation<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Mmmm, I really want to eat those chocolate chips! No, have a handful of almonds, they're way better for you! Oh, just a bit of chocolate, it's so yummy! No, don't, you'll feel so much better if you eat the nuts! <em>And, </em>you really want to feel fit and strong, right? Witness the current willpower battle taking place in my head. So, what's really going on up there? Here's the neuroscience: My midbrain is craving the dopamine rush that chocolate promises RIGHT NOW, while my prefrontal cortex is trying to ensure that I look better in my bikini on a future vacation. The midbrain is the primitive brain that kept humans alive when we were cavemen. It directs us to satisfy our impulses, to do what feels pleasurable and instantly gratifying. As we evolved, our brains modernized too, with the addition of the prefrontal cortex. It specializes in self-control, and is designed to help us do the harder thing. "I will" power is controlled by the upper left side of the prefrontal cortex. It is what will help me push through and do an extra set of squats at the gymn, when my midbrain is suggesting how lovely a hot shower would be. "I won't" power resides on the right side of the prefrontal cortex. I'll have to thank it for saying no to the impulse to leave and get a latte instead of finishing my workout. These two areas control what we <em>do</em>. Lower, and towards the middle of the prefrontal cortex is the region that remembers what our goals and desires are, the "I want" of willpower. It tells me that I <em>really want</em> to feel energetic, protect my bones, and live a longer and healthier life. <br />
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So, I'm delighted to say, this time, I'm eating almonds, not the chocolate chips. Score one for my prefrontal cortex, and pat myself on the back! Now, I can assure you that my prefrontal cortex often gets defeated by my conniving midbrain, and the chocolate chips reign victorious. So, if I want to do the harder thing just a little more often, here's what I've learned so far:<br />
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1. Congratulations, praise, positive feedback and celebrating success brings on more successes. Ya, I know it's not Nobel prize-worthy to make a healthy snacking choice, but our brains are hungry for positive reinforcement and will repeat patterns to get the next fix of feel good. So, how we talk to ourselves after making a good choice is key: "Way to go, great job, I'm really happy with how hard I tried, I'm amazing!" We also know that repeating the positive self-talk powers it up even more. So, it's perfectly acceptable to go brag about your willpower success to anyone who will listen. Write it down in a journal. Remember the good choices you made last week, and let the positive emotions flow again. Every repetition of the behavior, and even just thoughts and memories associated with the behavior, strengthen the neural pathways in the brain. Bottom line, it gets easier to do the harder thing. <br />
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2. Brain training 101: Practice Meditation. There's a whole truckload of good reasons to meditate, but today's reason is simply that it will strengthen your willpower. Studies show that after only three hours of meditation practice (no, not all at once!), subjects improved their self-control. Eleven hours led to actual changes visible on brain scans, showing more neural connections in the brain areas responsible for staying focused, ignoring distractions and controlling impulses .The latest research points to regular meditation as an excellent tool to help people quit smoking, lose weight, and stay clean and sober. Best part of this good news: five minutes a day will do it, and being a bad meditator is actually what makes the practice effective. <br />
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a. Sit still, cross-legged or on a chair. Try not to fidget or move. Remember, you're learning to NOT follow every impulse your brain and body throw at you. So, no scratching your nose. <br />
b. Close your eyes and notice your breathing. Say to yourself, "inhale", then "exhale" as you follow your breath. When you notice your mind wandering, just gently guide it back to focus on your breath. It will be hard. Most people find that when they begin meditation, their minds speed up and become busier than ever. The goal isn't to empty your mind, but to notice when it wanders, and bring it back to your breath. It is the practice of coming back to the breath over and over again which builds your prefrontal cortex willpower muscle. <br />
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So, this was today's beautiful mountain view on our walk this morning. It's one of Calgary's famous big blue sky winter days which makes me adore my city. Not so much on Tuesday, with the -38 degree windchill! But we walked anyway. Toby has boots, and I have long undies - so we brave it every day, no matter how miserable the weather. And yes, it's often a major willpower push for me. Another cup of coffee in my warm bed with my ipad would be soooo comfortably appealing, but Toby`s big brown eyes win me over everytime. That`s the way all willpower battles play out: two voices shout loudly for our attention. The healthy, goal-oriented voice of our best self urges us to choose the apple, while the bratty, rebellious voice stamps her foot and demands the cookies. Winning the willpower war is all about pumping up that motivated voice to top volume. The pup has me wrapped around his little paws, so the ``get out of bed`` voice now plays pretty loudly in my own head - thanks to his focussed terrier determination. So, while walking has become a pretty consistent habit for me, my real fitness willpower challenge is going to be getting myself to the gymn to GET STRONG. I`ve had a pretty good history of dabbling with weights, once-in-awhile, kind of sporadically, you know the story...... They don`t allow four-legged friends, so the kick-in-the-butt will have to come from somewhere else. Next step is to learn everything I need to know about brain wars. So far, what I can tell you is this - training my gray matter is going to be the secret weapon in the building the biceps battle. <br />
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Are you sticking to your resolutions? By this point in January, you've had almost a month to give them your best shot, but, if you're like most people, you've either slacked off a little (or alot!) or given up altogether. Many of us start the new year with enthusiastic plans to lose weight, get fit, quit smoking, spend more time with our families, or finally.....<i>insert life goal here.</i>.....! But it's hard, isn't it? Those best intentions seem to get gobbled up by our busyness or just plain lazyness - come on, admit it! So, here we find ourselves with our hands back in the proverbial cookie jar, blaming our lack of willpower.<br />
So, since I include myself amongst the fallen, I've decided to do a little willpower experiment on ME, and I invite you to join in the journey. I'll test out some of the best new ideas out there in the world of willpower research, and share my struggles, and successes along the way. So, here goes.......<br />
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I'm going to start with following the advice of a very smart psychological researcher, Kelly McGonigal. I just started reading her book, "The Willpower Instinct", and I like what I see so far. So, Kelly says our first task is to choose our willpower challenge.<br />
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1. "I will" power challenges are the things we want to do more of, the things that will make our lives more positive.<br />
2. "I won't power challenges are those habits we want to slow down on or stop, the things that are getting in the way.<br />
3. "I want" power challenges are the really great long term goals we want to reach.<br />
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I'm going to start by focussing on my fitness goals. Looks like that will be an "I will" power challenge. Ya, I know, not very original, right? Me and everyone else on the block. Well, that's why it's a good one - you can all relate! So, tune in next time, with your challenge chosen. I was going to say "Good luck!", but it's going to be about the science, not the luck..... <br />
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<br />Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-53786672409941609532012-09-25T05:30:00.000-06:002012-10-03T07:55:30.933-06:00Optimism makes us more Flexible<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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THINGS WILL WORK OUT! That's the mantra of the optimistic. When you don't have to waste too much brain space with self-doubt, your amazing mind gets to work on the question of HOW things will work out, not IF they will. That leads to all those wonderful problem solving strategies that come from thinking with flexibility, creativity and innovation. Stretchy thinking gets things done!Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-67389663528166505222012-09-20T06:00:00.000-06:002012-09-20T09:39:30.674-06:00Optimism Shields us from Anxiety<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Everyone needs their own turtle shell. An optimistic attitude protects us from the slings and arrows of anxiety. When we fill ourselves up with the powerful beliefs that we <i>can </i>shape events, we create our own safe haven from the doubts and worries that can paralyze us into giving up. If we assume the future will look brighter (Yes - even if we don't know for sure!), we're able to tolerate so much more stress in the present, that would otherwise be just too hard to take. Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-87537197480531122172012-09-17T06:00:00.000-06:002012-09-17T09:55:26.347-06:00Optimistic Energy<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Sometimes we need all the energizer energy we can muster when the going gets rough. An optimistic attitude is just the thing to "keep going and going and going and going". When we believe in positive outcomes, we work harder and longer to turn our positive predictions into reality. Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-34118473083341066262012-09-13T15:03:00.000-06:002012-09-13T15:03:55.429-06:00Curiosity Can lead to Happiness<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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So, they say that "curiosity killed the cat", but Happiness research is showing us that curiosity can also lead to a greater sense of meaning and contentment. Curious people who are open to stretching their knowledge and experiences "outside of the box" report that their greater exploratory mindset brings happy rewards. So, try something new, learn something different, and open your eyes to new happy possibilities!Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-58004847069322600602012-04-18T09:35:00.000-06:002012-04-18T09:35:15.843-06:00A Hopeful Heart is a Healthy Heart!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/n/na/nataly16/919382_heart.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/n/na/nataly16/919382_heart.jpg" /></a></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Here's one of the best reasons yet to adopt an optimistic, hopeful attitude: You just may live longer! A recent study published in the Psychological Bulletin by Harvard scientists found huge correlation between positive mental health and healthy cardiovascular health. Check this out:</div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">1. They found a 50% reduced risk of initial cardiovascular event for optimists (compared with less optimistic individuals, and</div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">2. Those optimists who were undergoing bypass treatment were 50% less likely to experience complications than their less optimistic counterparts.</div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">These finding all held regardless of diet, exercise or smoking factors.</div><br />
<b><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">WOW - 50%! less risk of heart attack! Positive Psychology for the WIN</span></b><span style="font-size: large;">!</span>Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-80275158304402575562012-04-16T05:30:00.001-06:002012-04-16T05:30:05.315-06:00Want to look young and thin?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/k/ka/kalilo/1150097_walrus.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/k/ka/kalilo/1150097_walrus.jpg" width="212" /></a></div><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">If you want to look young and thin, hang around old fat people!</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">Jim Eason </span></span></span>Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-67921392952456522172012-04-13T05:30:00.000-06:002012-04-13T05:30:02.729-06:00Walk with a Friend<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/s/se/seppics/888081_friends.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/s/se/seppics/888081_friends.jpg" /></a></div><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Why not combine two of the most important factors in maintaining a happy mood? Exercise your body muscles and your friendship muscles!</span></span>Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-43781610426075695222012-04-12T05:30:00.001-06:002012-04-12T05:30:05.197-06:00Walk in Beauty<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/s/sp/speedy2/1094843_autumn_walk.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/s/sp/speedy2/1094843_autumn_walk.jpg" width="300" /></a></div><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Find the inspiration to keep going by surrounding yourself with beauty</span></span>Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-57991166854987365182012-04-11T05:30:00.001-06:002012-04-11T05:30:02.810-06:00Just keep going!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/d/dj/djvirusz/674408_lazy_doggy.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/d/dj/djvirusz/674408_lazy_doggy.jpg" width="266" /></a></div><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">It's tempting to just park on the road to success! No worries - just nap, then keep on going!</span></span>Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-49529257547574737412012-04-10T05:30:00.001-06:002012-04-10T05:30:02.937-06:00Walk your way to Happiness<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/s/so/somadjinn/1126104_penguin_posse.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/s/so/somadjinn/1126104_penguin_posse.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Heck, if they can do it with those short little legs - can't you?</span></span>Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-73015035519316724812012-04-09T05:30:00.001-06:002012-04-09T05:30:05.308-06:00Stay in Shape<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/t/th/thoursie/1148571_walking.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/t/th/thoursie/1148571_walking.jpg" width="274" /></a></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Ellen Degeneres:</div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">"You have to stay in shape. My grandmother, she started walking five miles a day when she was 60. She's 97 today and we don't know where the hell she is!"</span></span>Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-80700996878349276842012-04-08T05:30:00.000-06:002012-04-08T05:30:02.103-06:00Happy Easter!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/v/va/vancity197/708631_happy_easter_3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="298" src="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/v/va/vancity197/708631_happy_easter_3.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br />
<span style="color: #351c75; font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Wishing you a bountiful and Joyous Easter!</span></span>Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7233403960612156810.post-87260689724268486712012-04-06T05:30:00.001-06:002012-04-06T05:30:04.174-06:00May your Friday be Good, Very Good!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/g/gr/groesel/955413_snowflake.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/g/gr/groesel/955413_snowflake.jpg" width="265" /></a></div><br />
<span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Reflection, contemplation, committment, rebirth, growth and celebration. May you choose to live today to the fullest!</span></span></span>Sharon Carltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02554138190314679768noreply@blogger.com0