A recent study in the Journal Of Family Issues found that men who vacuumed, and generally took an active and helpful role in caring for the house, experienced more closeness, affection and intimacy with their wives. Now, this really isn't a diatribe about equality and fairness - although we have a ways to go before we get to 50/50 in the housework department. It's really more about taking note of what is really important to our partners. If vacuuming is an expression of love and caring that is received as significant and meaningful, then every time you clean up, guys, you're saying "I love you". That, of course, feels great to her, and she may be inspired to reciprocate in the special ways that "mean love" to you. So instead of flowers - show your love with a dust rag, and see what happens!